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The Elusive Wapiti

Why I Hate Women* **

Posted: August 30th, 2008, 12:15am PDT

At least the ones who perpetrate crimes and aid and abet oppression against men, and those who stand idly by, watch it happen, and do nothing whatsoever to stop it.

Listening to the news on the radio yesterday, I mistakenly assumed it was a program dedicated to women's violence against men and children. First there was the case of the father and his two daughters who were killed in cold blood. Then the case of the man murdered by his jealous wife after marrying another woman as is permissible under Sharia.***

Then there was the woman who shot her husband in the back while he was sleeping, then pulls the phone cord out so he can't call 911. After watching him bleed out, she kidnaps the three children and flees the state. Charged with first degree murder, she is convicted of voluntary manslaughter after claiming she was abused sexually and emotionally, and regains custody of her three children two years later. Or how about the teenage boys accused of rape by 5 girls, "allegedly" of course, who fabricated the rape story as revenge. Oh, and let's not forget the judges who issue ex parte TROs**** with no consideration for the rights of the men targeted by those TROs, or the fact that those TROs are often the opening salvos in a divorce proceeding.

A quick trawl of the 'net via google reveals other ways in which women wreak havoc on the world and do untold harm to the men and children in their lives:

- Single motherhood by choice: Two-thirds to three-quarters of all divorces are initiated by women.

- Single motherhood by choice, II: Among college-educated couples, 90% of divorces are initiated by the woman

- Single motherhood by choice, III: 2/5 of children born out of wedlock

- Single motherhood by choice, IV: women have happily brought back slavery to support their single-mother-by-choice fantasies.

- Women regularly let off the hook for their deadly violence against men

- Women regularly use men as scapegoats for their own alcohol fuelled behavior

- Women's suffrage sparked the uncontrolled growth of oppressive government and loss of liberty, particularly for men

- Biological mothers are the #1 killer of children

- Single mother households with live-in boyfriends are the #2 killer of children

- Women are now successfully suing men for the crime of disappointing them

- Half of domestic violence incidents are characterized by mutual combat. Of those incidents characterized by non-reciprocal abuse, women are the sole violent partner 75% of the time

- A man is twice as likely to be a victim of a career- and life-wrecking false rape accusation as a woman is likely to be actually raped

- Women receive preferential treatment for jobs (affirmative action, quotas, set-asides), government payola (WIC, VAWA, welfare), and higer wages for less work

- Only 10% of black children and 25% of white children will live with their bio father through age 18

- Mothers are the primary obstacle to a dad's contact with his children

- Women hypocritically expect to be treated with preferential sexism--i.e. chivalry--on one hand, yet demand to be treated as equals on the other, not realizing--or not caring--that the two are incompatible

- Women's "choices" have slain 50M+ dead babies in the US alone since 1972

- TROs handed out like candy in blatant violation of a man's rights

- Oppression of men by women and their mangina enablers that shortens male life expectancy

- A survey of mothers reports that women are 50% more likely than men to be unfaithful

- Anywhere from 25 - 50% (depending on the source) of the sexual abuse of children is committed by women

- Women's participation in the labor force lowers men's wages

There are more I did not include. The irony is I and other men who fight against female physical, legal, and other violence towards men and children are labelled misogynists. Am I missing something? For based on the evidence of the above cases, as well as the millions of incidents of battery, child sexual abuse, rape, slavery, divorce, and murder of men, boys, and girls by women, it is women who are the dangerous, out-of-control, bloodthirsty haters. It is they who need to be reined in.

Before any of you misandrists out there start ranting on about how many women are abused by men, about how many men kill their children, etc, etc, don't even bother. Every piece of credible research produced in every country in the world where this work has been done shows that domestic violence is committed equally by women against men, and that women initiate said violence at a rate of 3-to-1. That single-motherhood-by-choice***** strips children of their fathers and results adverse outcomes for children, regardless of income. The women who would protest indignantly that they have never hurt a fly or done anything to harm a man, probably do not do an awful lot to stop other women harming men.

Where are women's voices of protest in this war against men and kids? Women, when can we men expect your support in reducing numbers of men and children killed, enslaved, oppressed by women? I will not be holding my breath, but in the meantime, I will say loud and proud, yes, today I hate women, and will tomorrow and the day after. But only the women who perpetrate these crimes against my brothers, plus those who do nothing to stop it. Are you in either one of those categories? If so, then I despise you.

* This spoof post was inspired by this exhibit of reasoned feminine discourse. When one reverses the sexes involved, and when it is a man doing the anti-woman ranting, the bigotry and sexism becomes very apparent. For it is very easy thing to do to cherry-pick the worst stats possible about The Other to justify your bilious ejectus. The real problem here is that shite like what this chick wrote would be received with "you go girl" from many--maybe even most--women, while if a man wrote it, it would be roundly condemned from all quarters.

** Of course I don't really hate women. I just have a dim view of a goodly portion of them. For good reason, too.

*** The brothel or the burka. That's where my man Vox predicts women as a sex will end up before it's over. How do you like them apples, feminists?

**** TROs: Temporary Restraining Orders. You'd be amazed at how easy they are to get, and how easy a man's rights are violated, all on the word of a woman who makes the accusation that she's "in fear" and offers no evidence to support her assertion. No matter, though. You want one? You got one. Better a million men's rights be violated than one woman be in fear of her husband.

***** I include female-initiated divorce in the single-motherhood-by-choice category. Just in case you are wondering

Rex Patriarch

PAST THEIR EXPIRATION DATE THE WHINING BEGINS

Posted: July 19th, 2008, 1:51pm PDT

Some concerns of 30-something women

Thanks for the fee milk but it's spoiled now.

Julie, a Chicago pediatrician, struggles with the stigma of being alone in her 30s. "I've tried JDate, a Jewish Internet dating service, Match.com, setups by my friends," Julie says. "I recently adopted a dog, hoping to meet someone out in the dog park."

You have a dog all you need now is a cat.

Like many single women in America, Julie is no stranger to the dating scene -- but finding dates isn't always the problem. "It's not that there are no men to date. It's that I'm not meeting anyone that I'm attracted to. Nobody that I think is quality and worthy of me and what I have to offer and what I want to do."

That's because any man with half a brain would never date you.

Now Julie thinks marriage may not even be what she wants. Instead of waiting around for a husband, she's considering having a child on her own. "I'm probably going to investigate an anonymous donor and do it artificially ... I want it to be my own biological child," she says.

Yeah they ain't so anonymous when it comes to child support.

"None of my female friends have ever said I'm intimidating," she says. "Having an education, a house, a job does not make me intimidating. It just makes me an adult living an adult life."

Great you are a self made man. Why do you need a husband? Find yourself a wife to settle down with. Word is there are plenty of 30 something chicks available.

She finds it ironic that her achievements may turn men off. "I would think they would find it more unusual if I walked into the picture not having anything. But I think after 35 years of living, working and being driven, I should have something to show for it."

You wasted your life becoming a man. If we wanted to marry a man like you we would be gay already.

DeChane also thinks men make assumptions about single women in their 30s. "I think they assume that if you aren't married, you want to get married," she says.

Now why would we think that? Could it be because every last one of you never drops the subject.

"Instead of meeting you and approaching you in a manner that's very basic -- 'I want to get to know you, who you are, what your likes and dislikes are' -- I think they walk in the door expecting you to try to strong-arm them into getting married, and it scares them away."

Imagine that.

For Amy, a divorced mom, dating in her 30s has been stressful. "I wish there was a manual for dating, because I have been out of the game for so long," she says. "Growing up, I always wanted to be a wife and a mom and didn't expect that I would find myself single again."

You should have read the marriage manual. It has only one chapter, it's very simple, easy to understand, it's called put out or get out.

With four children at home, Amy faces a unique set of dating issues. "I run a criminal background check on every guy I go out with," she says. "I have to be very careful about who I invite into our lives."

And you wonder why no man wants to come around you on top of having four kids.

Amy also realizes that a woman with kids isn't what every guy is looking for. "I don't consider children baggage. I think they're the bonus piece to the set, but there are a lot of men who don't see it that way," she says.

Let me tell you the way we see it. To us it looks like more baggage than an airport terminal over Christmas and New Year combined.

For many women in their 30s, the pressure to get married can be intense. Julie says she isn't feeling that pressure as much anymore. "My original goal was to meet a man, have a family just like I grew up in," she says. "But it just doesn't seem to be going that way."

Outstanding, my blog is having some effect out there.

As a single mom, Amy says the pressure comes from people who feel like something must be missing in her life. "People see me as a single mom [as if] that's something wrong. 'Oh, you poor thing. You'll find somebody.' People will do that kind of thing because they don't feel like it's acceptable, or that you can't do it on your own," she says.

It's not acceptable, we see the criminals that you produce, you chicks are obviously incapable of doing it on your own.

DeChane takes a more relaxed approach. "I am prepared to go with the flow as far as children and marriage are concerned," she says. "I was raised in a family where a number of people, even married relatives, have chosen not to have children. So it's never been the expectation that you have to get married, that you have to have children. It's really more being who you are and having a happy life. That's the focus for me."

Good on you girl. You sound like a man going his own way.

The False Rape Society

Off topic: Random thoughts on the double-standards when it comes to male and female sexuality

Posted: June 26th, 2008, 3:30pm PDT

Society has cracked down on male sexual offenses in the past few years. Much of the crackdown is good. But much of it is overkill. We now have television shows where alleged child predators are nabbed for the enjoyment of Americans coast-to-coast. It is no exaggeration to assert that Americans plop themselves in front of their TVs with a bowl of popcorn in order to chortle at terrified men whose lives have been forever destroyed (and their families' lives have been forever destroyed, too) because they acted on some inappropriate sexual desire. I suspect that a show featuring the castration of alleged predators would draw an even bigger audience.

I have no problem punishing a child porn collector or a child predator. I do have a problem with treating such men as worse than murderers.

Much of the hysteria in recent years seems to be premised on the belief that male sexuality is in some manner inherently depraved and needs to be controlled. I do have a problem in viewing every aspect of male sexual desire as depraved unless it's something women also enjoy.

Child porn is a problem because of the effect on the children who the subjects of the porn. They are flesh and blood victims. But should viewing "virtual" -- unreal -- "children" be punished? Sure, if the goal is to punish depraved male desires. Otherwise, I'm not so sure. Does that sort of thing lead to viewing porn with real children? I don't know.

Adult males having sex with children are viewed as the lowest form of life. In contrast, adult females who molest boys are seen as "mixed up" and emotionally immature. They are given notoriously light sentences because their disorders are seen as more pathetic than evil. (But a female teacher's callow male lover is lucky if the teacher doesn't sacrifice him to save her skin by accusing him of raping her -- one such teacher recently tried that to no avail.) Reverse the genders and assume a girl accuses an adult male teacher of rape -- he will be sent away for years, without question.

But it doesn't stop there. Who, for example, is considered the greater criminal, the hard-working, saintly prostitute or the evil businessman who frequents her? The question scarcely survives its statement.

Strip clubs are viewed as places frequented by dirty old disgusting men who objectify women. Civic groups want to impose "sin" taxes on them, and nobody complains except the strip club owners. But enjoying naked male dancers and explicit penis cakes at raunchy bachelorette parties is viewed as "empowerment" for the liberated young women in attendance.

An older man having a relationship with a young woman is similarly viewed as "disgusting." But reverse the genders -- when an older woman pursues a young man it's viewed as a positive sign of the times since the older women doesn't need to financially rely on a man. So we applaud her for having her very own "boy toy" that she can toss away when she tires of him or realizes that she has nothing in common with an early-20s-something guy. And while we call older men who do this "disgusting," we've given older women a far more respectful name -- "cougar" -- a sleek, crafty, fearsome animal.

The rape of a woman or a child are second only to murder on the scale of acts considered to be evil. In contrast, the rape of a man in prison is a punchline. And sometimes the men who are raped are only in prison because they were falsely accused of rape or some other sexual offense, the ultimate tragic irony. The rape of males may be more common than the rape of females, but it's ignored as just more male-on-male violence. Since women aren't the victims of that kind of rape it has no place in the feminist sexual assault metanarrative, which dominates the public discourse about rape.

Men who suffer from premature ejaculation are "selfish." They, too, are a punchline. Or worse: After her arrest for mutilating her husband with an 8-inch knife, Lorna Bobbitt told police: "He always have [sic] [an] orgasm and he doesn't wait for me to have [an] orgasm. He's selfish." That was the reason she gave for severing his penis. Mrs. Bobbitt was hailed as a feminist heroine.

Men who don't wear condoms are "pigs" in TV ads. Some feminist legal scholars want to go so far as to subject any male who has intercourse without a condom to be jailed as a kind of lesser form of rape (the burden would be on the male to prove that the woman consented to sex without a condom). In contrast, a female who lies to a male that she's on the pill, intending to get pregnant without the man's knowledge, isn't acting selfish in any manner. You see, it's her right to do as she pleases with her body. The fact that she will saddle the guy for child support for 18 years because of a lie is neither here nor there.

When two underage teenagers have sex, only one is considered a statutory rapist, and only one will be classified as a "sex offender," possibly for the rest of his life. Can you guess his gender?

Feminists tout the glories of the "hook up" culture -- except if any obligations are expected of the female. If both the guy and the girl get drunk and have sex, she's a rape victim who retains her anonymity if in some after-the-fact, ex post facto, false and belated hissy fit of regret she decides to punish him for cajoling her to have sex (even though she went along with it). As for the unlucky guy who incurred her wrath, he might go to prison for years, his name splashed all over the news, his reputation destroyed forever. And in prison, he'll probably have done to him what he did NOT do to her.

(And we didn't even get into the new proposal in Britain that would allow employers to give preferential treatment to female or ethnic minority job candidates. That is, after all, too off-topic. But to summarize, the proposal would make it OK to discriminate against one group and one group only -- you guessed it, white males. The misandry at work there is unfathomable. And you British men tolerate that -- why?)

It is a wonderful era to be male, isn't it?

"As much as I hate to say it, girls love jerks!...too many women who could easily be in a healthy relationship instead choose the cliffhanger ending of dating a jerk that walks with a swagger, winks at anything that moves, and always has a one-liner at the ready."

Though feminist bloggers often fall all over themselves to deny it, I think one of the very real grievances young men have is the way women, despite all of their complaints about men, are usually not interested in nice guys. I saw one men's activist several years ago write on his website, "Women say they want one thing, but they sleep with another," and it's often true.

When I taught high school, students often came to me with their problems. Sometimes the girls would come to me with problems about their boyfriends. Often they would come in groups. Time and time and time again I would see a girl who could have had practically any guy in the school she wanted instead go way, way out of her way to have a relationship with a jerk. (The jerk was often a gang member). Then, when things don't work out with the jerk, or when the jerk acts like, well, a jerk, they are shocked and angry.

I remember one time asking a girl the following question -- "You could pick practically any guy you want. Why don't you just go find a guy who thinks he's lucky to be with you? Who will be good to you because he's a nice, good hearted guy, who is pleased with his good fortune? Why don't you just find a nice guy, and have a relationship with him?

The girl and her two friends giggled, and all three of them practically said the same thing at once -- "Nice is boring."

The article below by Christine Hassler (pictured) and Jason Ryan Dorsey discusses the problem with girls and "jerks." I have mixed emotions about it. On one hand, I think that men sometimes get stereotyped unfairly as jerks. On the other hand, I think it is true that often women do not like "nice guys", and it is time to acknowledge this problem.

Thanks to Dutch Martin, for sending me the story.

DATING TIPS
She Says vs. He Says: Do Girls Really Like Dating Jerks?

By Christine Hassler and Jason Ryan Dorsey
Yahoo! Personals, Feb 24, 2008

SHE SAYS: No, but we think we do. As someone who dated a jerk, whom I now refer to as my "learning experience," I admit to falling under the jerk spell.

Here's how the jerk spell works: we meet the jerk and in some twisted way are seduced by his confidence, charm, and passion. We don't see these as the disguises they are: confidence is really arrogance, charm comes from him being a player, and his passion is being the center of his own universe.

The jerk sniffs out our insecurities and uses them to reel us in with compliments that eventually turn into criticisms. And if we see a red flag, like the time my "learning experience" told me his definition of a relationship was "light, fun and physical," we play mind games with ourselves. We use our normally rational inner voice to convince ourselves that we can tame him or that with the right kind of girlfriend he will lose his jerk armor and transform into a leading man fit for a romantic comedy. Come on ladies, what are we thinking?!

A jerk loves being a jerk -- way more than he loves us. I guess if they've always gotten away with treating people poorly and nobody ever set them straight, why would they change? Besides, a jerk seems to always have an attractive woman on his arm laughing at his mediocre jokes and ignoring his wandering gaze. How? I think it's because deep down every woman wants a challenge or a little danger. It's not really the jerk we like; it's the thrill of the chase, the rush of adrenaline when the jerk's phone number pops up on our cell (which is usually right after last call).

However, it's been my experience that "jerkdom" isn't some phase we can pull a guy out of. Guys only outgrow that phase when life no longer succumbs to their demands. Any woman who has dated a jerk for more than a week knows that it's a hollow relationship that ultimately leaves you disappointed, hurt, and commiserating with your friends.

The only challenge worth overcoming when dating a jerk is to not let him affect or define your self worth. So if there is a jerk out there making your heart go pitter-pat and estrogen is messing with your reasoning, go ahead and let him woo you, but when he asks for your number tell him that you only date guys who prove their value by respecting a woman. If he's a jerk he'll roll his eyes, say you have an attitude and snicker as he leaves. If he sincerely accepts your ground rules, then chances are you should give him at least one date to prove he's relationship material. Although you may not be spellbound at first, the nice guy without all the smooth answers may ultimately fulfill your needs in more meaningful ways.

HE SAYS: As much as I hate to say it, girls love jerks! At least until the jerk stops calling, which is usually right after he gets what he wants. Speaking from the guy's perspective, I've never quite understood what draws sane, attractive, bright women to guys who act like jerks. Maybe it is the thrill of the unexpected. Maybe it is trying to outplay him in his own game. Maybe it is hoping that deep down he is a nice guy and you are going to prove it to your naysayer friends. What I do know is that too many women who could easily be in a healthy relationship instead choose the cliffhanger ending of dating a jerk that walks with a swagger, winks at anything that moves, and always has a one-liner at the ready.

Truth be told, there aren't many nice guys who haven't considered acting like a jerk, especially when they steal your girl (here I speak from experience). However, daydreaming of jerkdom fades as soon as nice guys remember one thing: being a jerk means acting like a jerk all the time. That means causing the mental pain and emotional anguish that drives a girl to phone her friends -- guy friends included -- crying about what the jerk did to her in public on their first date. Even guys bear the brunt of girls who fall head over heels for jerks.

Read the full article here.

The American Coalition for Fathers and Children
The American Coalition for Fathers and Children is dedicated to creating a family law system which promotes equal rights for all parties affected by divorce. Contact the ACFC at 1-800-978-3237 or visit them on the web at www.acfc.org.

Pete Patriarch's Musings

The truth about women from a PUA perspective

Posted: December 4th, 2007, 7:25pm PST by Pete Patriarch

This ought to go well with the Schopenhauer post I made a while back. I got nothing to add except that I already kinda knew this before I got into the pickup community.

The Truth About Women
by Unknown
I wasn't a sexist before I understood women. There was a time when I was blissfully ignorant.
I grew up watching Disney cartoons, I believed in romance and "true love conquers all" etc. I wanted to find a woman who could be my equal, my partner. I believed in finding that one true love and being committed to each other forever. You know, like in the marriage vows, "for better or for worse, through sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer" etc. And I believed that women basically wanted the same thing. Now I understand that this was only possible when society was structured to enforce it. Now that women are "liberated" (and thus at the mercy of their own emotions and baser instincts) this is mostly no longer possible in today's society. Victorian society, or many Arab societies, are examples of how society used to be structured to keep women as faithful as possible.
I'd like to point out that I am not a misogynist...I love women. But I AM a sexist, in the sense that I believe women are vastly different than men and, according to the standards that men hold for other men, women are inferior as well.
I must be a bitter loser, right? In fact, I enjoy more success with women than most of the men in this city. I have slept with over 200 women in my life. I am sleeping with 5 different women right now. They are all normal, healthy, well-adjusted, good-looking (8+ on the looks scale) professional women. (At least as normal and healthy and well-adjusted as women can be - most women have issues.) But that's not all. I can go out any night of the week and pick up a woman. I can pick her up in front of all her friends (with 80% efficiency for each approach.) Women will slip me their phone number when their boyfriend is in the bathroom. I can talk to women on the street or in the grocery store and within 30 minutes, I can usually have sex with them right there in my car or get them back to my place. If I have to settle for a phone number, and I meet her on another day, assuming she doesn't flake, I WILL fuck her that next day.
Let me point out right now that my Modus Operandi doesn't change in the slightest if she single or if she has a boyfriend or husband. I just do my normal routine and I fuck her. Sometimes she brings up the boyfriend so she won't feel guilty when I fuck her because now it's "my fault." Sometimes she hides it from me until after I've fucked her, then she admits it. I can't tell you how many times I've been laying next to some chick, all sweaty cause I just finished busting a nut all over her face or in her mouth or on her back, and suddenly her phone rings and she's on the phone with her man, giving him some bullshit story. This is with NO GUILT WHATSOEVER!!! The sweetest most innocent girls you ever laid eyes on, will cheat at the drop of a HAT. The one thing that most men value most - loyalty - is just not there with women. Women don't think in terms of honor, women don't say "word is bond;" women are basically emotionally driven. If they feel it, they do it, period. Then they rationalize it to themselves later. Nothing is more meaningful, or compelling, to a woman than (1) the way she feels and (2) learning more about her own inner self and having emotional realizations. That's why women love astrology, chick flicks, soap operas, stupid Cosmo quizes that supposedly reveal info about yourself, etc.
I must be really good looking, right? NOPE. My looks are marginal; I'm maybe a 7. I don't work out (though I'm not fat or anything.) In fact I didn't have any success with women until I was in my early 20's. That's when I decided to go out a lot and start trying to get laid... I was willing to face rejection a thousand times a night, and do it over and over, trying everything, until I got it right. I had to completely set my ego aside. I didn't get laid at all for the first few months. Then every now and then. Then pretty often. Then downright consistently! I'm in my early 30's now and I am basically a sexual god. I wouldn't have even believed this were possible when I was in high school. The ONLY factor that determined whether a woman would cheat was my own skill level. When my skills were poor, women shit all over me. (Everyone knows how women think they have license to be rude bitches in social situations... in fact I understand and appreciate that behavior now.) But once my skills got good, I could fuck just about anyone's wife or girlfriend. And many times I didn't know they had a man until after I fucked them.
Look, I'm not saying that men are perfect, or whatever. Far from it. I'm just saying, I've spent a lot of my time studying women and interacting with them, and I know how they are. In fact, sometimes I hate knowing it. Sometimes I wish I had taken the blue pill, and never went down the rabbit hole, because now there's really no going back. I didn't want to believe these things... but how could I ever get married now? How could I ever be the chump who pays for everything and blissfully goes through life not worrying about his woman because he trusts her? Look, would you leave your dog alone with a steak? You can't hate the dog for doing what's in its nature. You can't trust a dog, BUT you can trust a dog to BE a dog. Some men are disloyal... but I could *never* trust a woman to be loyal. Some men are bad presidents...but I could *never* vote for a woman to be president. I can rarely expect a woman to regard her own promises as more important and compelling to her than the emotions she feels in the moment. She will rationalize it to herself later.
Here's an interesting fact. Did you know that the median 22 year old woman has TWICE as much sex as the median 22 year old man? You might ask, how is that possible? If a woman's having sex, doesn't that mean a man is having sex at the same time? And thus, shouldn't men be having just as much sex as women? NO...because most men hardly get laid, or if they do, it's because they "got lucky." But a small group of men get laid ALL THE TIME, and fuck LOTS AND LOTS of women! It's evolution at work. Women follow their emotions, and that leads them to sleep with men like me (who know how to control female emotions.) Women want the top man...so the top man fucks lots of women. That's right - the sexual revolution, feminism, etc has resulted in a return to harems. Women, at the mercy of their own emotions, are volunteering for the modern-day equivalent of harems. Lucky for me!! Heh.
You might say, "But...but...I'm so nice! I'm a nice guy!" Guess what? That's like a fat chick saying, "But I'm so smart!" As if those things have anything in the world to do with sexual attraction!
I'm going to give some tips here for the poor sucker guys who are posting online trying to get laid and who are spending hundreds / thousands of dollars on all those whores out there without getting any play. (You bitches know exactly what you're doing, and I'm on to your game!)
* Don't be sexually judgemental in any way. A woman's worst fear is to be perceived as a slut. She will suck your toes and take it in the ass if she thinks you don't view her poorly for it (and she knows her friends won't find out.)
* Don't get angry at her. Women know they have emotional outbursts and they need to trust that you can handle that. It's ok (and necessary) to occasionally put your foot down...just make sure she knows you are fully in control of yourself.
* Don't let her manipulate you or control you in any way. She will immediately lose all respect for you. Always be leading. It's just like dancing - women hate a man who can't lead.
* When first approaching a woman or a group, they tend to get a feeling like this is just your little scheme to get close to them, when you really just want something from them - like sex. (And they're right.) It's important to structure your body language and conversation so that they honestly don't believe you want something from them. They should feel like you are about to leave at any second.
* DON'T TRY TO IMPRESS HER IN ANY WAY. Don't show off. Don't talk about accomplishments or possessions. As soon as she perceives that you are trying to prove yourself to her, she loses all interest.
* Don't ignore her friends. A woman values her friend's opinions more than just about anything else in the world. Nothing matters to her more than what other women are thinking. Give her friends lots of attention and get everyone laughing. If one woman is feeling different than the others, she will drag them away. They will follow like a flock of pigeons. Society is the book of women. (Notice that men do NOT behave this way! Women are very different!)
* To get a woman attracted / emotionally vulnerable, give her lots of emotions and feelings. Don't just make her feel good. Make her feel good, and angry, and sad, and connected, and astonished, and intrigued, etc. Make her laugh. Tease her. Tell stories about your sick puppy. Tell her why things would never work out between the two of you. Call her a dork. If she gets heated up, she will start touching you...playfully push her away. If she calls you a jerk and punches your arm, you are doing it right. If she gives you that "I can't believe you just said that" look, do NOT back down, do not say "Oh I'm just kidding" or anything like that.
* As she gets more emotional, she will try to ruin things by throwing in logic. She will ask you if you are a player, or if you say this to all the girls, or whatever. The trick is this: Don't take it seriously by giving it some logical answer! That's right...women lose interest if you take them seriously!!! It's crazy but that's how they behave. Just blow it off or misinterpret what she's saying as though she is coming on to you. If you fail these tests, she will be gone so fast your head will spin.
* She will start asking you lots of questions. This is what chicks do when they suddenly find themselves attracted to a man they know nothing about. This is your chance to open up a little and also find out more about her and build a deeper connection. You have to do this, or she will flake later (even if you've kissed her!) Women are the worst flakes in the world! Don't make it too easy for her, make her work for it a bit. Then talk about connections and childhood memories and things you have in common, etc. She needs to feel that this is genuine. This is usually the time when I throw in a few fake vulnerabilities, like pretending I'm shy or insecure about something. I know it's fucked up but women need to see that there are at least a few small holes where they can sink their hooks in you. They get uneasy if you are too perfect.
* Make sure she gets the feeling that you have standards and that you are judging her based on them. Ask her questions that show her you are checking her out to see if she is up to snuff. Women don't like to feel like you are with them only because you can't do any better. They prefer to feel like you have high standards; you can get any chick you want, but you chose HER because she is SOOOO special and SOOOO different from all the others. Yeah, I know.
* Move her to different locations. Take her next door for a drink. Take her across the street to check out some art. The more locations the better.
* Take responsibility for every escalation. A woman will do just about anything as long as she doesn't have to feel like it was "her fault." Make it YOUR fault. Make it "just happen." She will rationalize it to herself later using the same bullshit generator that women use to flake out on dates at the last minute. Don't get her horny until you get her isolated. Believe me, emotional is better than horny.
* Keep the woman always swinging somewhere between validation and rejection. If she feels rejected, she drops out or gets REALLY MAD. And if she feels too validated, she will ditch you in a heartbeat. So push her away (emotionally) and then pull her back in.
* BELIEVE YOUR OWN BULLSHIT. Chicks do not look at your excuses and try to see if they are bullshit or not... because that is the logical thing to do, and chicks are not logical. Rather, what they do is see if YOU seem to believe your own bullshit when you say it. If you look like you do, then chances are, they will believe it too. So the key is to believe your own bullshit, and other aspects about yourself that you want the chick to believe about you too (alpha male..whatever)... because your own self beliefs for some reason will automatically 'impart' to the chick!
* One more thing...many guys make the mistake of listening to female romantic advice. Don't listen to them, THEY DON'T KNOW WTF THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT, and they WILL steer you wrong. They will tell you what they THINK they want, instead of what they actually RESPOND to. And furthermore, a large part of the female sexual experience IS the inability to admit these things BECAUSE they derive sexual pleasure from putting up resistance and being overwhelmed.
If you do things this way, after a few months practice you WILL get laid like a rock star. The guys who get laid are the ones who know what they are doing, because they have practiced on lots of women. Ironically, women are most attracted to the men who are most likely to fuck them and then dump them on their ass - because those are precisely the men who have so many other options because they practice on lots of women. That's why you always hear women bitching about how men are assholes that only want to fuck them and dump them - because those are the men that they gravitate to.
Women tend to wise up when they get towards their 30s, and they start looking for a nice wimpy beta male to settle down with and pay for all their shit. As they get older, they will get more and more desperate to find this guy. Once they do, they will cheat on him with an exciting fun guy like me. (But who wants to fuck some old chick in her 30's? That's what beta males are for! Heh)
Hey, don't blame me - I didn't make things the way they are. I was just a guy who wanted to get laid. And I do. :-)
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Posted: August 19th, 2007, 1:58am PDT by Pete Patriarch

An excellent post by uzemandluzem... about how western women are sluts...

from Unhooked:
"Stepp follows three high school girls and six college women through a year in their lives, chronicling their sexual behavior. These girls and women don't date, don't develop long-term relationships or even short, serious ones -- instead, they "hook up." Hooking up, Stepp writes, "isn't exactly anything." It can "consist entirely of one kiss, or it can involve fondling, oral sex, anal sex, intercourse or any combination of those things."

As I stated in another thread, "The real and not often recognized root of women’s power in our society is that 90% of them are really only truly interested in 5% of guys. Just as importantly, when these girls are young (under 30) they’d much rather share the 5% than have one of the 95% all to themselves."
Obviously, it can only be a best guess but I would breakdown the 5% as follows:
Players: 2%
Bad Boys: 2%
Studs:1%
Good players are smooth talkers so they generally do well in clubs. While they do get plenty of sex, its not necessarily easy sex because they still have to make the effort and encounter lots of rejection. While they do have many more one night stands than the average guy, most of the time they still have to take the girl on at least one date before they get any action.
As for bad boys, women perceive them to be very masculine, adventurous and dangerous - and when dealing with the shallow, arrogant creature that is WW, perception is reality. If a bad boy isn't a smooth talker then he won't get laid like crazy but like rich dudes, he will always have a girlfriend because girls tend to be drawn to them like stink on shit.
The Studs however, are the true chosen ones: they get easy sex and lots of sex because they have the package (like the bad boys) and the skill (like the players) that allows them to bypass the whole dating scam - I mean scene. The classic example of the stud is the hi school or college quarterback. The following are just a few of the characteristics of the stud:
He has lots of female friends (and many of these girls have borefriends) and he is the king of the "one thing just led to another" hookup - No need to get numbers and certainly no need to waste time or money "dating".
For example, as the article above alludes to:
He'll be just hanging out watching a movie with 2 girls and the next thing you know (ATNTYK) he's piling both of them
He'll be studying with a girl at a library ATNTYK they're fucking under the stairwell
He'll go to a party ATNTYK a girl's blowing him while her bf's in the other room
He'll go to a club with his buddies ATNTYK he's fucking a girl in the bathroom
He'll give a girl a ride home from work ATNTYK he's riding her in the back seat or
He'll meet a girl on the street ATNTYK he's on her sofa with her ankles pinned behind her ears like bugs bunny.
Of course, the distinction between players, bad boys and studs is not black and white but the important thing to remember is that women are really only truly interested in the studs and the bad boys. They are entertained by players and the good ones do get lots of action but mainly because there are not enough bad boys and studs to go around - despite the fact that they do their best to spread their seed.
So what about the other 95% of guys?
As far as WW are concerned they are worker bees and sexual drones. In other words, WW simply are NOT INTERESTED IN 95% OF MEN. Instinctively, your gut has been telling you that and your gut has been 100% right as the article above proves.
It proves it because you can only be "casually hooking up" with these whores if you are already in their circle. Women operate in cliques and they only let the studs and bad boys into their cliques because they are the only guys that they are really interested in. For everyone else, including the players, they make it extremely difficult just to talk to them. This is not an accident.
The players and rich dudes are third and fourth in line but they are still made to jump through hoops (i.e. do the dating thing) whereas the studs and bad boys get the "advance straight to pussy - no need to ask for my number and no need to take me on a date" pass.
To Summarize
For non gold digging woman their genuine preference in men before they are ready to get married is as follows:
First Choice: The Stud
Second Choice: The Bad Boy
Third Choice: The Player
Fourth Choice: The Rich Guy (he can provide material excitement)
Fifth Choice: The Catch (good looks, right family & fast track career)
Last Resort: The Average Joe (who in reality is far more of a "catch" than the average WW)
When WW are ready to get married the key thing to remember is that their preferences stay the same but their choices change. So even the non gold diggers will try and get a rich guy or a catch. Since there are not enough of those men to go around they will begrudgingly settle for an average Joe.
And therein lies part of the reason why the typical wife is so angry. She is deeply resentful that she wasn't able to land a meal ticket and retirement plan so payback comes by cutting her hair, ballooning into a beached whale, making her husband's life as miserable as possible and of course (in 75% of the cases) the coup de grace, eventually divorcing his ass and cleaning him out.
Of course, we can't forget that if she thinks she can get away with it she will try and find a stud, a bad boy or a player to knock her up and have the sucker (the rich guy, the catch or the average Joe) raise it.
The irony is that even if a WW can land a rich guy or a catch, in her shallow, arrogant, twisted and entitled little mind, she still will not be happy because to her, such men are not really men, they are personal slaves - suckers, just like the average Joe - only a lot more useful.
Always remember that a western woman's "heart" will always be reserved for the studs and the bad boys.
To summarize:
WW love Studs & Bad Boys (to the extent that WW are even capable of loving)
They respect players (women only fuck guys they respect**)
They use (while resenting) rich guys and catches & (most disturbingly)
They contemptuously think of average Joes as last resorts
Since bad boys and studs are born not made, unless you've always been getting tonnes of easy pussy while rarely spending a dime, the only self respecting option - aside from opting out from dealing with WW completely - is to (learn to) be a master player.
Uzem & Luzem
**hopefully by now, having the "respect" of WW means about as much to you as having the respect of a vulture or a rat - it only matters if you want to fuck them.

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